All you need is…

…a date night! After 5 days away, there was a feeling that something was off. There was a distance…between…us. I spent this past weekend surrounded by several incredible people in Chicago for Colleen & Arius’ wedding. Many of these people are one half of a really incredible couple. As I talked to these couples, I watched the way they interacted with each other and saw how much love, admiration and fondness they have for one another. I found myself talking to these couples about James–a lot. Clearly, I was missing him.

Before I left, James and I had planned a date night, but work ran late and we got too tired to go, so when I left the next morning, it felt like we hadn’t spent any time recently, really just hanging out together.

This is the way it is right now. The Work Monster doesn’t care if we haven’t talked face to face without some sort of internet-connected device in our hands for what seems like forever; the Work Monster doesn’t care if we don’t have the same days free to go to the lake; the Work Monster doesn’t care if we haven’t even sat together at a proper dinner table just enjoying each other’s company for what seems like months!

And, the Work Monster is just fine becoming the excuse for why everything seems “off”. In fact, it’s a matter of us making our relationship a priority, no matter how much work we have to do.

So, last night, we squeezed in some time for a little date…

(iPhone photo while waiting for our drinks)

Un-showered, and dressed in my finest workout clothes, James and I met up at Starbucks for a pre-dinner hot cocoa 🙂 As un-glamorous and basic as it was, that feeling, the distance, the distractions…went away. It was just the two of us sitting together, re-connecting.

Hopefully we will plan a proper date-night soon, but the great thing is, it doesn’t take anything elaborate. All it takes is putting a priority on it…and making sure the Work Monster doesn’t try to third-wheel us!



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